A few months ago I wrote a blog on how to deal with a friend breakup and today I am here to write a blog on how to deal with a breakup with your girlfriend or boyfriend. I have gone through two really hard breakups during high school and thought that it might be helpful to share how I dealt with it. I am not going to sugar coat it, it is extremely hard. Having to deal with a breakup with someone you really connected with and cared about is soooo hard. It really tested me in knowing how to cope and deal with my strong emotions. As someone who struggles with depression, anxiety and self-harm, a breakup has to be one of the hardest things you can go through. Here are some of the ways I got through the first few weeks and am still getting through it.
- GET OUTSIDE: This one is so important. The first few days I was stuck in bed and would just cry all. day. every. day. It was terrible. I learned that even just walking around my neighborhood helped.
- LISTEN TO MUSIC: For me I blasted the christian music and would just listen to the lyrics. Play music that makes you feel calm, relaxed, and loved. For me the christian music reminded me that even though someone who loved me left me, God will not and he loves us unconditionally.
- TALK ABOUT IT: This one I did like crazy. When I say to talk about it I don’t mean to call a friend and bash your ex, that will get you nowhere. I mean to call your therapist, mentor, best friend, or parents and talk about how you are feeling. I eventually needed to have a twenty minute call with my therapist every morning to just get me ready for the day and to not feel as devastated. One thing I would do is call one of my best friends while I was on a walk which really helped because when I was angry or upset I would rant and walk faster or run which really helped release those endorphins.
- PRAY: If you are religious I really suggest this one. It helped me a lot. The times where I just wanted to lay in my bed and do nothing I would just close my eyes and pray or even write down my prayers. Writing down your prayers is so cool because then you can go back to them and read them later to see how far you have come. Praying reminds us that there is a higher power that controls everything and reminds us that we are not alone.
- EXERCISE: This one was hard for me I will say. I was so depressed and upset that I couldn’t eat, sleep, or frankly even move. However, you don’t have to go for a five mile run to get exercise. Something as simple as a 20 minute walk is considered exercise. It releases endorphins in your brain which just helps you be happier and healthier. Exercise has been huge in helping me release toxic feelings. Something I have been doing has been kickboxing. I recently bought a membership at a boxing gym and go to a class about 3-4 times a week. It is awesome!!!
Those are just five of my tips on how to deal with a breakup. Remember, it is OKAY to feel sad, angry, regretful, depressed, whatever. Just make sure that you are dealing with these emotions in a healthy way where you won’t get physically hurt or mentally hurt. It is going to be hard, I won’t lie about that. However, YOU CAN DO IT. If I am getting through it, you can too.
Think happy, be happy